A lot of the time on social media we see images of half-naked women (and men) with these magnificent bodies all over social media. From Facebook, to Instagram and Twitter, and these catchy quotes that promote “body positivity” …unless we’re talking about anyone who is seemingly overweight, then suddenly this idea of body positivity doesn’t include them.
Many people equate physical stature to actual fitness when that’s not the case most of the time. Just because someone may look like they’re in tip top physical shape, does not mean that they’re healthy. You should take into consideration their lifestyle, genetics, eating habits; there is more to being healthy than just drinking some damn water, and eating one carrot. You can eat fried foods, and drink wine and have a tummy and still be healthy. Being healthy isn’t about having an hourglass shape or an eight-pack of abs, being healthy is about the whole self, not just the physical.
Also, can we stop pretending that people who may be overweight don’t have love lives and acting like they don’t engage in sexual activity? Why are we praising people who date/marry people who are heavier than them for being decent people? Love and happiness have a size restriction? A lot of the times we don’t realize how our words and our behaviors affect another person. Phrases like “You’re pretty for a big girl” or “You dress nice for a big guy” are hurtful and they’re also mean. If you’re going to give a compliment, then give the compliment, without the back handedness. And this argument goes for both ends of the spectrum, telling an individual on the smaller side that they “need a cheeseburger” or that you need to “fatten” them up is wildly unnecessary and makes you look like a jerk. Let people enjoy things, including their bodies.
There’s no right or wrong way to have a body. You just have the body. Own it. We have one life to live and we’re here to live it to the fullest. I’m not saying go and eat your weight in chili smothered nachos, but what I am saying, is to live your life in the way that makes you happy. Every body is a good body.
Dominique is currently studying Psychology at Bridgewater State University with a double minor in Middle East Studies and Music. In her spare time, she is a poet and artist. She hopes to use her voice as both a journalist and artist to empower the unheard.