We are excited to welcome you to the first installment of our new "Let's Talk" column. Every week a handful of our contributors and readers will share their thoughts, feelings, and advice on a specific topic. We are kicking off 2018 by sharing our thoughts on resolutions!
Emily Rose Thorne: Every January, the world seems to adopt a “new year, new me” mindset, but this pressure to change can bring a lot of negativity into your year from the beginning (think about how many people make resolutions just to see them fall through by the end of the month). My advice for the New Year is: rather than demand significant, tangible individual progress, realize that personal development rarely happens overnight. Sit back and think about everything that the last year provided you, reflect upon what you learned from your experiences and relationships, and challenge yourself to actively use those lessons to guide you going forward instead of holding yourself to a specific resolution that you can only succeed or fail in. Growth is gradual, and you aren’t obligated to reinvent yourself as soon as the clock strikes 12.
Linda Tran: I think making resolutions is important because they help you grow as a person. Instead of year long resolutions, I give myself monthly resolutions so that I don’t forget about them and that I’ll have a better chance of accomplishing them. I think when resolutions are “year long,” we tend to forget about them whereas monthly goals will help you stay accountable and they’re more reachable. I hold myself accountable by writing down my resolutions and keeping them where I can see them. I’ll write down my resolutions in my journal, my day planner, my white sticky board in my room so that when I’m about to leave my room, it’s the first thing I see. When you can see your goals or resolutions in front of you, it helps to motivate you to accomplish them.
Jackie Garcia: I always make New Year’s resolutions but by week two or three, I start to lose motivation. In order to avoid this, I started to make smaller goals for myself for the week, a month and in the next three months. By having these shorter goals, I am able to stay more motivated to accomplish my goals in 2018!
Irene Aracil Vázquez: I do believe in New Year's resolutions. If we put our mind into it, we can achieve everything we want. My resolutions are all about becoming more independent, strong, active, and being more consistent in every aspect in life.
Emma Berry: I don’t believe in making New Year’s resolutions. I used to attempt to make them, but I was never motivated enough by my list to keep them. Resolutions tend to be a list of things you failed to do the year before, and it’s sort of disappointing to read everything you failed at. I like the idea of writing a list of things you want to do during the new year, things that you’ve never done before. That’s more exciting and starts the year off more positively.
Anne Demarest: This year, I have several different resolutions that I feel are not like the typical "lose 10 pounds" phrases that we promise ourselves. I have decided to change the way I think about myself. I tend to compare the way that I am with other people. This has only made me feel unhappy and like I do not fit in. In 2018 I want to become the happiest, brightest, most-loving version of myself, and to spread that joy to those around me. I plan on doing this by taking more time for myself to relax, being active, and choosing to always take the high road when I come into difficult situations. I also plan on growing more with God, as in recent situations I have discovered just how important this is for me.
Jenna Roth: Often times in life we are quick to define our years based on the big things that have happened. Don't get me wrong, the big things are imporant. But, I think that people are quick to define an entire yeart based around those moments. So a new year's resolution that I have is to make meaning out of the smaller moments and not to define my weeks, months, or my year by a single event. Rather it is the single moments in life that we should pay note to. And in those moments we should learn and find optiminsm and take that with us in defining who we are in our experiences.
Nicole Locorriere: While resolutions can knock your self-esteem down if you don't complete them, I don't think we should ever pass up a wave of motivation when it strikes us! When I make a resolution, I like to just make sure it has concrete steps so I don't find myself fading fast in February. For example, instead of "drink more water," my resolution would be to "drink 64 oz of water per day." Then, in a month or so, I re-evaluate my goals to see if they're too hard or too easy.
Olivia Pandora Stokes: I’m not the biggest fan of New Year’s resolutions but part of me does appreciate the new start the beginning of the year brings.Here are my New Year’s resolutions: Be kinder to myself and others, stay focused on my school work, make more time for my passions, and wear bright lipstick more often. I like my resolutions because they’re all realistic goals for where my life is now.
Leslie Marsh: While this may sound cliche, my resolution for 2018 is to start eating healthier. After a comforting season of hot chocolate and cookies, it's now time to get back on track, eat healthy, and feel more energized. When thinking about resolutions, I feel as though they are not the whole answer, and it's tough to actually follow through with them, especially when the goal is as broad as simply eating healthy. However, I do think that setting a goal at the beginning of the year is a great way to kick off your journey to success.
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